Assuming
the Responsibilities that come with Being a Coach
Who can
forget the famous line of Peter Parker (Spiderman’s grandfather)? He said, with
great power comes great responsibility.
Society
expects TV and movie superhero with extraordinary powers to be responsible for
saving his town and the world from the forces of Evil. And he never let us
down. Despite the temptations of owning such powers, he uses his abilities only
for the good of the people around him.
Being a coach
has similar parallels. Great coaches can have real power through their
abilities to help others and with it, the responsibility to guide others
towards success. This is REAL power that can be used to help real people in
THIS world. Done well, coaches can help others turn around their lives. Done
wrong, and a coach could guide a client down the wrong path.
So, with
this power to coach your clients towards manifesting their personal and/or
business vision comes responsibilities. Great coaches assume them all as part
of the professional responsibility. This can include everything from making
sure your client is moving in the right direction, getting them back on course
when they are not, and developing and tracking their use of exercises to help
them along the way.
There are
a few things you can do to be a more responsible coach. Just as important,
these same skills can be imparted to your clients to help them lead more
responsible, integrity-filled lives.
How to
Bring out the more Responsible You in Yourself and your Client
#1 –
Develop self-awareness.
Learn and know your own strengths and weaknesses to be able to view your behaviour
objectively. Recognise your shortcomings, receive feedback, and make changes
when necessary. The more self-aware you become of all your aspects, the more
you will know what kind of clients you can coach best and just as important
those best referred to others.
The lesson is simple: the more we grow, the more we can offer, and the more we
can help others.
#2: Learn
to Separate Responsibility from Worry
When we hear the word responsibility, we often think to ourselves, Another
task, another problem. However, responsibility is not about worrying over
things given to us to work out. Consider this story:
One night
at the end of the second shift, the Head of Operations walked out of the plant
he managed and passed a labourer. The labourer said, “Mr. Smith, I sure wish I
had your pay. But I wouldn’t want the worry that goes with it.”
Mr. Smith
answered, “I give the best I can when I am here. But I drop the worry when I
leave so I can be 100% with my family when I’m at home.”
You, too,
can learn to give your best to challenging work, but then leave it at the door
when your off-hours. Worrying accomplishes nothing except to eat away at us,
and actually ends up making us less effective! Don’t let worry taint your
clarity of judgment and ability to take decisive action. You can learn this as
you grow.
Carrying
the responsibility of coaching should not intimidate you. It is the ability to
help others that coaching is all about. Embrace the responsibilities that come
with it.
Nothing
is gained by worrying about whether your clients achieve their goals or not.
Focus on supporting and inspiring them. Be their partner in their growth.
Brainstorm with them when it is called for. But ultimately, it is your client’s
responsibility to assume responsibility for accomplishing their goals. You
merely help them see and achieve this state.
#3: Take
Calculated Risks and Learn from Your Mistakes
Effective
coaches have the courage to ask their clients to take risks when results and
success are uncertain. A willingness to risk failure is a core attribute of all
successful people.
As a
coach you can help your clients work with risk and possible failure. Help them
learn to analyse their situation and options. Work with them to list the pros
and cons for each option, then assign each choice a risk factor rating from 1
to 5. Next, have them determine the likelihood of each occurring. This will
help them quantify and manage the risk-taking process.
Also, lead them to a better paradigm regarding failure. What is failure other
than great feedback that our current course of action is not the right path?
Use this information for course correction. Failure doesn’t happen until we
give up. If you don’t give up, then failure is not an option.
#4: Own
and admit our mistakes
Our greatest lessons and growth come through our mistakes. Everyone makes them;
it is part of life. Help your client understand this, and they will be able to
draw the necessary lessons and take corrective action. If we do the blame game,
we don’t even take the first step (ownership) in this process.
Not only does owning our mistakes and failures help us to be more truthful and powerful in our own lives. Owning and assuming responsibility for them lets others see the integrity and virtue within us, and hence further gain their respect.
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